DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband believes that when we receive a single, indivisible gift intended for us as a couple (such as a platter, restaurant gift card or other anniversary gift) or a shared ...

would prefer that we send a single message, using “we” in the note with one person writing and each individual signing.

And that includes thank-you notes. So, short answer: it’s never too late to send them. You also don’t have to send them at all. Grief is seismic, it’s ever evolving, and it changes the ...