Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips.

Her mom is complaining that she can't lift the baby anymore. But rather than get another caregiver for him, grandma says he should be "trained" to do things like get in his own carseat.

It’s no longer possible for her to put him in his car seat, lift him to put him in his crib, high chair, etc. She’s being ...